Tribute to my Mother on my wedding day
Posted on May 13 2018
I am sure most of you know that I recently got married. What an amazing experience filled with so much emotion and joy. As an adult I have always known that if I was to get married that I would somehow incorporate my mothers wedding dress into my gown or as an accessory of some kind. With that in mind let me take a step back and explain to you a little about my mother and why this was so important to me.
I was 3 years old when my mother was diagnosed with Breast Cancer, and at the age of 5 she passed away. I have been told by family members and friends that my mom LOVED being a mother and she would do anything for her girls (my sister and I). The memories I have of her are ones that I treasure and bring a smile to my face. Like when she would let me sit on the kitchen counter and I would help her take all of the groceries out of the paper bags. Countless stories have been told to me about the woman she was, and even the things she struggled with. How she had the mouth of a sailor (I can fucking relate), a beautiful singing voice, loved black and white cookies, and had a passion for art and crafts. In fact, she was an art teacher who once had her class decorate diapers for me when I was a baby. Art is a connection I will always have with my mother. I even named my company after my mother, and I believe she would have been beyond proud of me for going after my dreams.
Fast forward to a couple of months before my wedding day. I went over to my sister's house to grab the gown, and I reluctantly cut off a sleeve from my mom's wedding dress. I say "reluctantly" because I had this overwhelming feeling of bittersweetness, and not wanting to destroy something she had once worn. However, once I started cutting -- that reluctancy turned into love. Love for my mom, and wanting to wear the memory of her as I walked down the aisle. So you can imagine the pressure I was feeling to make something perfect for the big day. I did what I usually do when I am a bit scared and unsure... I procrastinated.
For the most part I had an idea of the design I wanted to create. I knew I wanted to have a row of raw crystals on a hair comb. Beyond that I had no clue how to incorporate my mom's fabric. After hours of staring and racking my brain with ideas... BAM I knew what I wanted to do. I decided to use the beautiful floral lace that wrapped around the wrist of my mom's gown. I laid the lace over the crystals and encased (electroformed) the lace in copper, creating a big beautiful hair accessory. What an amazing feeling to have her with me in such a sentimental way. The perfect delicate touch. Below is the finished hair piece, as well as the fabric with out copper over it.
Not only did I have the honor of wearing this hair piece but I was also gifted a handmade locket with my mothers photo inside from a dear friend of mine. This literally brought me to tears, followed by a huge hug. I pinned the locket onto my bouquet. As soon as I get my photos from the wedding I will definitely post a quick blog sharing photos of this lovely locket and the hair accessory styled for the big day.
To be able to preserve a special memory, and have it forever is something I absolutely love doing. Not just for myself, but for others as well. I hope to create little treasures for others to remember -- and have for a lifetime. Jewelry that is full of meaning and feeling. Jewelry that honors someone's memory, and will bring a smile to someone's face. Just like it did for me.